Yea We Said It

I am having a “mad as hell” moment right now and I thought I would post these lyrics, because it is exactly how I feel. Thank you Deborah Cox!
“Did You Ever Love Me”
Heartfelt conversations we had every single night, lying in bed together,
So why would there ever be a breakdown in communication,
And I’m just wondering [...]

I just threw my books  How to Love a Black Man and Act Like a Lady and Think Like a Man away. I know these books are what most single women refer to when they want to get things right when the past did not work out the way that they wanted it to. The truth [...]

This is a response to all the previous posts about the trials and tribulations of independent, educated black women. I thought I would turn in the direction that I always do in times where I feel that women are making too many “excuses”. It is so easy to blame others for your shortcomings in life. I mean, [...]

So I’ve been told that my last post sparked a lot of interesting debate. Good.  I think it’s a debate that should continue. I did not post it to depress high achieving black women (I feel I fall into that category), but to get us to think about our choices and options when it comes [...]

We have all had at least one relationship…I hope. I was just listening to Chrisette Michelle and she was speaking some real shit with her song Blame It On Me. When you are in love with a person, once the words are spoken that the relationship is over the relationship just doesn’t end. If you [...]

Three words that instantly piss me off. It just happened. Words that are used by every man and woman at least once in their dating lives. My issue is that what may have once been okay to say ( it just happened your freshman year one night after having 3 shouldn’t shots led you to believe that person [...]

Ok, I know that has been a while since the women spoke up, but I can say that sometimes  we have to take a step back from life and get perspective and evaluate if we are on the right path to where we want to go. When you think back on life you can’t help [...]

Yeah I said it. Fuck Puffy! While I was in college I was able to be a part of many different clubs and organizations, but I have to say that my Fuck Puffy meetings are the most educational. The Fuck Puffy movement came about when this last season of Making the Band was coming to [...]

People, people people. I am sick and tired of y’all getting these two things mixed up.  Learn the difference between what you want and what you need to be happy in a relationship.  You also need to be asking the person you’re dating what they need from you and not what they want. If they [...]